Write them down and see if you notice any patterns between your dreams. This can clue you into what wounds might need more healing. Here's mbg's guide to how to get over a tough breakup. Did the beginning of your relationship with your ex start out passionate and fizzle out fast? Did you feel misunderstood by your ex at the end of the relationship? Or unheard? Sometimes a dream about your ex is more of a reflection of a current feeling in our life and less about the past relationship.
You may be feeling something now in your life that's reminding you of something you felt back then. Reflect on the day s before you had the dreams about your ex. Notice what emotional feelings you can identify during those days. For example, if you felt deeply misunderstood when you and your ex broke up, how are you feeling deeply misunderstood now?
Or who in your life reminds you of when you felt misunderstood by your ex? Connecting these dots can empower you to address the feeling. One of the most unexpected reasons we dream about our ex can be an erosion of healthy boundaries.
If we struggled with boundaries when we were with our ex, this same pattern may be emerging again. For example, did you struggle with your own self-care, asking for what you need, or saying no with your ex? Your dreams may be a reminder to upgrade your current personal boundaries. Consider the different types of boundaries in your life right now.
For example, reflect on your boundaries in relationships, with different parts of yourself, and with work. Where do you feel your boundaries are not supporting your well-being? Follow any feelings of resentment. These are often arrows to areas in our life where we need to revamp our boundaries. Your subconscious is wondering where [the routine] went. This sort of dream tapers off as time goes on, and you get used to no longer [having the relationship as] a constant.
This can help us see that we have upgraded or that we are seemingly in the exact same relationship but with a different person. The takeaway: No matter what you dreamed about an ex, Loewenberg suggests asking yourself the following five questions to get to the bottom of why the dream took place:. What stands out to me about this particular ex or our relationship? Is there anything in my current life or relationship that seems similar to this former ex or relationship? Is there a lesson I learned from that particular ex or relationship that I can apply to my current life or relationship?
Do the actions or circumstances in the dream seem similar to any of my current circumstances? Do the emotions or thoughts I had in the dream relate to how I feel or think about anything in my life or in my relationship right now? The dreams about our exes bring us reminders that, in order for our current or future relationships to be healthy, we must let go of the pain and negativity, but hold onto the lesson.
Read more about dreams on the Cut, including why you dream about your teeth falling out and why you dream about being pregnant. This post has been updated with additional reporting by Claire Lampen. Jung Institute of Colorado. Instead, he says, focus on the hidden content of your dream. Think of the people in your dreams as the vessel for your emotions. It's like an art piece of your emotions and represents all parts of you," says Marion Frank, a psychologist specializing in dream analysis and relationships in the Philadelphia area.
What we see and experience in our dreams might not always be real, but the emotions attached to these experiences are," Frank says. The study found that a reduction in REM sleep resulted in a reduced ability to understand complex emotions in daily life.
If you're dreaming about your former love, even if they were an abusive ex, ask yourself, "what's the first thing that comes to mind when you think about them? What we see and experience in our dreams might not always be real, but the emotions attached to these experiences are. For instance, perhaps you just had an ugly argument with your current significant other —maybe you acted poorly and the argument you had is bringing out a side of you that you feel relates to how your ex used to treat you.
The anger you were feeling toward your spouse the moment before you went to bed is percolating in your subconscious. The ex probably represents anger, and it's more likely to be the angry side of you.
Toub explains that dreams are about what just happened that day. The dream is the commentary of what was going on up until you fell asleep. Don't panic and take it as a sign that you belong with your ex you broke up for a reason! You simply might be needing more intimate connections from your family or your friends. Breakups are hard.
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Health Conditions Discover Plan Connect. Medically reviewed by Timothy J. Legg, Ph. Quick answer Why it happens Underlying issues Specific dream scenarios Pandemic dream scenarios When it's a red flag When to tell your partner How to talk about it How to address the cause Takeaway Share on Pinterest. Why the pandemic is to blame for your ex dreams. It usually relates to one of these underlying issues.
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